Receiving
Feedback
Feedback is an
example of how it is easier to give than to receive. We
all receive feedback in ongoing ways whether we recognize it or not. Feedback comes to us through the experiences we
attract, the ways others respond to us, our reactions to people and situations, and from
our own inner processes and perceptions. Even positive feedback, complements, can be
difficult to receive. Being open to
receiving relevant information regarding our behaviors, attitudes, and thought processes
is the first step in receiving feedback effectively. The
second step is considering the value of the information for influencing and/or modifying
our behavioral/attitudinal choices. We can
help ourselves stay open to useful feedback by remembering that feedback is simply
information. If we attach our sense of identity to the thoughts, judgments, feelings,
behaviors, and perceptions of others, then we lose contact with who we are.
Receiving feedback
can:
·
Assist
us in answering the questions: “How am I doing? Is
what I’m doing working? What could I do
to be more effective?”
·
Provide
an opportunity to identify our intentions and
the impact of our behavior and make sure they
are aligned.
·
Teach
us discernment in processing feedback information from various sources.
In
short, one of the best ways to learn about our selves and our performance is by being open
to receiving and using the feedback we receive.